Are you a single mom, and you feel like your head is going to explode at any moment? How many of you single moms out there, want to pull out your hair right now?! Do you have an annoying teenager, 17 to be exact and imagine some not so nice thoughts? Or, do you low-key wish you could run away?! It can’t just be me, right? Nah!
Here’s the Deal…
Ok so from the title of this post, I’m sure you guys have guessed that in today’s post I’m going to be sharing a little bit of how I’ve been feeling lately being a single mom. Before I do, let me say without a doubt, that I do love my children and would do anything for them. But it ain’t that kind of post tuh-day honey, ok! Let the venting begin! (*In my evil laugh, ha-ha-ha)
Ladies, I have been so frustrated lately with my two daughters, one preteen at age 12, the other, full blown at 17. So, I am certain many of you can relate to the teen attitudes, asking a thousand times for chores to be done, and yelling at your kids for the same things over and over again. Or, my favorite, asking why something didn’t get done, only to get the SAME ANSWER every single time, “I don’t know.”🤦🏾♀️ I can honestly say that I despise those three words.
A Little Backstory…
You know, I was raised very differently from the way, this generation seems to be now. I describe this as old school. If I showed my mother an ounce of disrespect or gave her backtalk, she would just give me a look which basically meant, hush your mouth! Or, wash my mouth out with soap, L-I-T-E-R-A-L-L-Y! My momma didn’t play because you see, she was a single mom too and she didn’t have time for that! I learned very quickly, that “Mama ain’t take no mess”, as James Brown would say. I’ve raised my girls in a similar fashion, but just without the soap! LOL. Nowadays, everybody’s so sensitive and in your business, that you sort of have to be careful, but that’s another post.
I wasn’t always alone, well I guess not technically, because I was married. But, even though I was married for 10 years, I still felt like I raised my kids on my own because of my ex-husband working late hours. He was also an over-the-road driver and was away for weeks at a time. Needless to say, I spent my entire 20’s, basically just being a mom. To say I missed out on a lot is putting it lightly, but do I regret it? No. I wouldn’t change that time I had with my girls for anything.
They Grew Up…
But now they are older and things are a bit different it seems. My love is never wavering, but… I just feel like I need more breaks these days! I couldn’t wait for school to be out to send them to their Father’s house for the summer! Does that make me a bad mom? If it does…then, oh well I guess, haha! I don’t get too many opportunities to have the house to myself. I mean it’s quiet as hell in the house, y’all! So I am enjoying myself with just me and my two kitties!
When my 17-year old, tells me that “she didn’t want too” as the reason she didn’t do something I told her to do, it’s almost like she’s cursing at me! You know what I’m saying! It causes me to pause and think to myself and say, I know she just didn’t say that sh** to me! That type of blatant disrespect makes me want to lose it! #singlemomissues #singlemomsunite #badmomondeck
When my youngest, acts up in school, it makes me want to go insane. Like, why can’t you just do what the teacher says and follow the rules?! Is that so hard?! The short answer is, yes. I have just come to accept that kids will be kids, but oh, how it gets on my ever-loving, last nerves! That’s probably why I have a shopping addiction. Good ol’ retail therapy is always the antidote for making me feel better. 😂
How I Manage?..
I feel very alone at times and am really lost in certain situations and have to find resources for help. But I am also very lucky to have such a good support system. Because honestly, if I didn’t have that, I don’t know what I would do. The reality of it is, is that I do the best that I can. Just like everything in life, some days are bad and some days are good. And things are about to get better due to some newer changes on the way! But until then, I just take it day-by-day.
Let me say that I think it’s important to take some time for yourself, because if you don’t, you will undoubtedly go mad. That doesn’t make you a bad parent, it makes you a good one. Learn to recognize when you need a reprieve. And for my ladies with a spouse, make sure he/she is putting in work! You didn’t make that baby by yourself! Okurrr!
Let’s swap parenting stories! What drives you crazy? Do you need a vacation from your kids? Leave your comments in the box below. Before you go, don’t forget to check out my last post, Cranberry Glam and catch me on IG @gracefulnaturalista211; and, on YouTube @ COCOACHERA!
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